5 Ways You Can Support a Foster/Adoptive Family

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Most people who know us know that a few months ago we accepted our first foster placement of two beautiful little girls.  Their stay was brief, but I am forever changed.

Not many will know that this placement came about after years of prayer on my part, prayers like, “God, I’d love to adopt, but David doesn’t want to – please, if it is your will change his heart.”  That was the beginning.  Then, more recently my prayer changed to “Lord, I accept Your will, I give up my dream to adopt if it isn’t what You want for our family.”

It’s really a long story, better told in person over a cup of tea or coffee…I never really wanted to foster, too hard, too heartbreaking, too much of a roller coaster.  Adoption, on the other hand, was a warm, fuzzy thought – one more child to love and heal.

It didn’t take long for me to realize that I was wrong on both counts.  I’ve also learned one more humbling lesson about making a judgement call about something you’ve never done before.  Have I ever mentioned that I’m prone to that?  There  is more to this journey I may share sometime.  Some of it is another person’s story.

In the meantime, I’d like to list the top 5 ways that all of us can support those who choose to open their homes, hearts and lives to children from hard places – whether it be through adoption or fostering.  While my husband is now the one praying for God to change my heart, I’ll simply say it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done..

5 Ways to support a foster/adoption family –

  1.  Bring meals – and don’t ask for permission first
  2.  Listen when they need to talk
  3.  Offer to do respite – and do whatever it takes to be certified to do so
  4.  Send notes of encouragement with a verse
  5.  Don’t judge – ever