Yes, I did return from Haiti…(in case you were wondering) I did not intend to drop off the blog planet, but I did so now I am stuck wondering where to pick up and start blogging again. I finally realized I just had to jump in and write something.
The main reason for the silence on my blog is that a week after the Haiti trip, we took in a 6 week old. He was here for only 5 weeks, but he captured all of our hearts and we’ve been feeling a bit empty since he left. The awesome part? We got to know his parents and have been able to visit him. If any story has a chance of turning out well, its this one, and for that we have been grateful, and humbled to have played a small part in it.
Our lives have been a bit of a whirlwind this past year, and for that reason I was really tempted to give up fostering for now and focus on my family – especially since my oldest is planning on going to college next fall.
BUT… we got an email this afternoon about an emergency placement for a 1.5 yo. I think it was all of 4 hours between first being asked and him being dropped off. So…here we go again. If any of you would be willing to pray for us, that would be appreciated!
Most people who know us know that a few months ago we accepted our first foster placement of two beautiful little girls. Their stay was brief, but I am forever changed.
Not many will know that this placement came about after years of prayer on my part, prayers like, “God, I’d love to adopt, but David doesn’t want to – please, if it is your will change his heart.” That was the beginning. Then, more recently my prayer changed to “Lord, I accept Your will, I give up my dream to adopt if it isn’t what You want for our family.”
It’s really a long story, better told in person over a cup of tea or coffee…I never really wanted to foster, too hard, too heartbreaking, too much of a roller coaster. Adoption, on the other hand, was a warm, fuzzy thought – one more child to love and heal.
It didn’t take long for me to realize that I was wrong on both counts. I’ve also learned one more humbling lesson about making a judgement call about something you’ve never done before. Have I ever mentioned that I’m prone to that? There is more to this journey I may share sometime. Some of it is another person’s story.
In the meantime, I’d like to list the top 5 ways that all of us can support those who choose to open their homes, hearts and lives to children from hard places – whether it be through adoption or fostering. While my husband is now the one praying for God to change my heart, I’ll simply say it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done..
5 Ways to support a foster/adoption family –
Bring meals – and don’t ask for permission first
Listen when they need to talk
Offer to do respite – and do whatever it takes to be certified to do so