One practice we instituted with our kids during these crazy, fun, hard, awesome years of parenting has been “time together.” The simple name is just what it is – a little time carved out one-on-one with each child. I don’t remember when we got deliberate about it, but I do clearly remember the first one – the newborn stayed home with Daddy and my 2 year old and I went down the road to the library. I’ll never forget what she said to me on the way: “Mommy, I’m so proud we’re going to the liberry…” It was such a simple thing, but had such a big impact!
Admittedly, life can get busy and it takes a conscious effort – (and, in our house, usually a reminder from the kids) to keep it up. So, while we have not been nearly as consistent I would like to be, I am proud to say my husband and I do each spend a little one-on-one time with each of our children on a regular basis. How often? How long? How much money do we spend? At least once a month. And, we don’t necessarily spend money or even leave the house. Many nights its just a half-hour spent drawing, talking, writing poems, playing Wii or doing a Minecraft build-off. (The activity is up to the kids, and yes, its a stretch for me to write a poem or draw a picture, especially at the end of a long day, but the good news is that its just between us :).
Sunday evening I had the privilege of hanging out at the beach with one of my favorite people, my middle daughter. We shivered in our blanket and talked, and then got silly and took pictures of each other dipping our toes in the ocean…yeah, its chilly this time of year! I know for me these moments will be some of my favorite memories when they have all grown and left home, and I think they’ll be their favorites, too.